Cover of Brave New World
What is a bully and by who should we take the advice. I choose Christ but man chooses?
A Bully is a blustering browbeating person (of low mentality; who feels they are of elite or of superior mentality) who is cruel to others, who are weaker than themselves, one who views themselves and their ideas as superior to anyone else’s, also considered awful or rotten.
I went back and retrieved this little note I wrote not long ago: for on some TV networks we have Liberal nitwits called comedians or hosts talking and acting as if they are funny yet coming off as mean spiteful fools. Calling what they do free speech. Which it is, but if there is then why isn’t mine?
While in schools they demand and they teach it is all hate and tell our children it is a crime. Now it may be immaterial to some, but this seems to be a double standard of sorts. For if I speak out against an issue I am classed as one who hates while these people are said to be expressing their rights.
So here we go again:
At my child’s school this school year; I was very shocked at what I saw, for on the wall was a list of things that are now called Bullying. What liberals define as hate and crimes? Yet they can express their thoughts spew their hate and call it freedom of speech, while if I say I do not agree with certain life style choice and do not want them taught to my children I am classed as one who hates.
What shall we call it if:
1. If you laugh at someone for any reason: are you a bully
2. If you tell someone they are acting silly and to leave you alone: are you a bully
3. If you tell someone anything about their appearance: are you a bully
4. If you mention anything about a last name for any reason: are you a bully
5. If you whisper, point or seemly respond in any way that will offend someone: are you a BULLY.
There were more on little signs all around the school, what Huxley called so jokingly info speak.
These little lists went on and on seemly without end and as in the story they change from time to time so as to delete and update what is now offending and what has now become the norm…
Now sadly comrades:
I must admit as our friend in 1984 did or Brave New world, I must have been and in some ways I still am a bully, so is every actor and comedian, once I sat in the lunch room, Oh, I laughed when some kid tripped over a chair leg, then falling splayed out on the floor dropping his or her tray to land in it and slide across the floor, Oh, my how we all laughed even oops the teachers laughed to. So this act these actions is now called bullying? Wow what a concept. So telling someone who what they are doing is harmful is evil if I do it in the name of Christ and as an act of faith.
If it is this is a stupid rule.
I must have been a bully, when I told some one to calm down; no one cares how you look, it’s only you. I like you just the way you are. I realize now how much pain that caused. Oh really, give me a break.
I was the brunt of many jokes about my last name for brown rhymes with clown or hey brown what’s the color of stuff this dog dropped over in my yard, man does your name mean you like this?
Being adopted brought another horde of insults from school mates, sisters, relatives and others. However God blessed me with my dad who constantly reminded me of my core Christian values. OOPS I said Christian another evil hurt filled word to the masses forgive me oh my liberal progressive friends, oh dam Comrade’s I apologize for my ways.
He my step-father added some very simple advice he learned long before from his father: sticks and stones they break bone; names or jokes about you hurt only if you let them, but they come from ignorant people who are in pain themselves.
So I repeat: their words they can never hurt you; except you choose to let them. If you respond to insults; they get worse; it is better to respond with kindness, return good to them for the evil that they do; a kind word bless the ones who hate you.
Now I must say people laugh at things and make jokes about things, sometimes at the most inappropriate of times, so perhaps the joke or the laughter is misunderstood; however now I see all of this new social engineering and when people begin interfering much more is lost, there is no gain they make thing worse. One can not be protected from everything.
The Children of today are spoiled, they are insulated so they do not have a realistic view of this world they will be facing, they are kept inside in a bubble, with play dates and structured times for play, then off to be isolated and protected at school, making them less able to cope with the real world.
For you see:
One can block unwanted email
One can block unwanted calls
One can block unwanted comments on Facebook
Or any of the other social networks.
However these options seem to be seldom used for in every case there is a litany of responses back and forth between the parties with one always saying I am being bullied.
So can I ask?
Why didn’t you just block it?
Or tell your parents and forget it?
Parents, why not teach your child that there are stupid, really ignorant people out there; who are jealous and in order to feel good about themselves; they feel they must make some one else feel as unhappy as they are.
But then I also hear many who say I am a Christian.
Then be one forgive and live.
Why is your child a bully?
Why is your child being bullied?
Why are you so upset?
Where is your compassion of Christ, where is your forgiving nature, why have you not trained your child to turn the other cheek and forgive those who would hurt them?
No, I must conclude I was not a bully, for I like those around me reacted to what we saw and heard, it was funny just like watching the stooges or the Marx Brothers nor was I bullied by the new definitions of self-pity, what I experienced was life and the full rang of acts and action that man is capable of doing to another and thanks to that I see better what others face and understand how they feel so in all honesty I can say things get better. Words may carry a sting, but having pity, compassion and love for the one trying to hurt you makes you stronger and more able to live an abundant full life free of jealousy and want. If you internalize their words if you accept their comments then you lose yourself to them. As Christ was being beat he remained silent his last words were forgive them for they know not what they do. We should teach this rather than twenty thirty forty fifty different ways to define hate and hurt when love and compassion work better and cover so much more.